A Cat’s Trust Must be Earned

Actually… trust must be earned by any animal, us included. But, it can certainly be a challenging feat when dealing with an animal that views the world as a fearful place first.

Misty is a skeptic.


Are people trustworthy? Is trusting people worth the risk?

Honestly, Misty, I don’t know the answer to that. Sometimes, no; sometimes, people aren’t trustworthy. And, sometimes, it’s not worth the risk. Other times, yes to both of these. It’s up to each cat to decide. The beautiful thing about cats, though, is that they tend to let go of the past a bit more easily than us humans.

We have discovered that while Misty might be on her way to trusting humans, she is not a fan of other cats. So, we are on a kitty rotation schedule now! And, this has absolutely made things a lot better for all of the cats. One of my favorite parts of the rotation is that, after 8PM, Misty is allowed to free roam throughout the night. We don’t allow cats in our room when we’re sleeping, but I let her in before I go to bed.

on the bed


Oooh yes. This is one kitty who, after she finds her person, will love to curl up in bed should they allow her to do so! I really enjoy these quiet moments of trust and peace. It’s obvious to me that Misty both trusts and actually likes me. She wants to be with me, and that’s a special feeling — especially given that it takes a while for her to feel that way about people.

But, good news! She’s no longer terrified of my husband. She’s not going to cuddle on his lap, but she doesn’t run every time she hears him anymore. AND…I brought a friend into her room the other day and, while she was scared, she didn’t try to hide. She held still and let my friend pet her. I also took Misty to an adoption event, and that…that terrified her, but those events are so stressful. She spent 2 of the 3 hours at least curled on my lap or with me carrying her around. But, this calmed her down. She was much more approachable this way. People were much more able to see her sweet, adorable side. Which, she does have!

head boops

Hopefully someone else sees it in her too and is willing to give her the time it takes to earn a cat’s trust.



A Long-Awaited Update: Moments of Progress

I think it goes without saying that fostering is a rewarding experience. In general, you get to help animals, provide them with something they have usually never fully experienced (a loving, safe environment), and ultimately see them move on to wonderful families who will hopefully keep them forever. Fostering is rewarding; tough, but rewarding.

I have had a couple new fosters since my last entry: some tough, some easy.

A pair of kittens who didn’t trust humans at all and, who, unfortunately, passed away from panleukopenia before they had much of a chance.

sleeping kittens

But, they still got to experience some loving moments thanks to Graham, who affectionately became known as “Graham-paw.”

graham grooming kitten

A curmudgeon-y “Fluffy Overlord” named Chilly, who captured my Facebook friends’ hearts with his grumpy face


and with his adorableness.


He found a great forever home to reign over fairly quickly. 🙂


And, now, I have a new foster. She’s roughly 6 years old and comes from a confusing background: her original owners left her with their older mother, who was in poor health and, upon her admittance to a hospital, she came to us. They didn’t really know her name, so I named her Misty.


Day 1.
Misty was good at the vet’s. Scared, but not aggressive. I got her home, and she hid in the closet, but she purred when pet, which was a good sign.

After some time, she tentatively tried out the perch in her room.


And, after her 2-week quarantine was up, she took her first tentative steps out of her room…after much contemplation of the risk.


Misty is not feral, but she is incredibly timid. She walks low to the ground and very slowly at all times. She’s been with me almost a month now, and she still chooses to spend a lot of her time in her crate. Because of her fear, I chose to introduce her first to Graham, who never hisses at another cat, and takes their swipes without fighting back. After a week, Misty stopped hissing at Graham. They’re not friends, but she’s not afraid of him anymore. My female cat, Luna, is next on the list for introductions, and the 2 of them…yeah…not fans of one another.

Misty’s progress is slow (but not that slow, considering). Sometimes, we get a couple “normal” moments where she actually lays down like a normal cat. Just a few moments, but it’s a step.


I am, right now, the only human she trusts. She finds comfort in routine, as most cats do, and I’m trying to give her that while slowly introducing change as well. She skitters and hides if she even hears another person. She still walks low and slow. It can be hard to watch: you want so badly to make this creature understand that this is a safe place, but you can’t “tell” an animal anything. The only thing you can do is be consistently safe.

Sometimes, it can be discouraging watching a cat continually run back to its crate…continually living in fear. Sometimes, when you spend every day with an animal, its progress isn’t obvious to you even if others see it. Then, you’ll notice it in random moments… like catching Graham, who used to never groom himself, giving himself a full 10-minute bath 🙂


Misty is a tough case. She’s not a kitten, she’s extremely shy – most people want kittens or really friendly cats. But, fostering a cat like Misty is rewarding. Here is a creature who doesn’t really understand safety, love, or what a “home” really is. And, we get to show it to her. Not by telling her, but by being…by living it. I know that, one day, I will catch myself, in a moment, recognizing her progress too – just like I did Graham’s today. And, again, I’ll be reminded why I do this.

Rescue isn’t just about Playing with Kittens

Note: After a night’s sleep and some conversations with friends, I realized that the original version of this blog didn’t quite convey what I meant for it to say. This blog was inspired when I found myself cleaning up a kitty mess for the 5th time that day and having to remind myself “Lisa, you didn’t just get into rescue to play with kittens! This is worth it!”

The message here is not in any way meant to say “don’t volunteer with kittens” — it’s kitten season, folks — PLEASE volunteer to play with kittens 😉 …or to set up adoption events, pass out fliers, do adoption interviews, or whatever you can do! We love and appreciate the people who do these things!

The message here is simply a reminder to myself during those tough fostering times when I find myself dealing with a sick or difficult cat. Kittens are the perks of rescue 😉 There’s just an awful lot more going on at the same time!. So, here’s the updated post:


It’s been a while since I’ve posted a new entry — life has been chaotic! But, tonight, I feel compelled to write.

Graham is still with me, but he’s a different cat than when he arrived.

His diabetes went into remission, and his neuropathy went away… he began grooming again, and his coat returned to a normal cat coat… it took us over a month, but we got rid of his urinary tract infection… then, we discovered that he had a blood pressure issue, but we got that under control with meds.

It’s been a crazy 5 months complete with late-night emergency vet visits, being up to my elbows in cat vomit, lots of shoving pills in cat mouths… seemingly endless vet visits.

But, it’s been worth it.

This is worth it:

Pet Graham

The truth is, while I adored my baby fosters, Milton and Diego, sometimes I need a reminder that I didn’t get into fostering and rescue work just to play with kittens.

I also got into rescue to spend hours laying on the floor beside a sick cat at 10:00 at night — debating whether or not to make the trip to the emergency vet.

I got into rescue to drive to that emergency vet at 11:00 at night because getting my foster cat help was more important than sleep that night.

I got into rescue to scrub cat puke out of impossibly stained carpets and to comfort the sick cat who can’t help himself.

I got into rescue to find out that my foster may have a fungus that I, myself, could catch…and to walk around smelling like cat ear drops, medicated ear wash, and prescription shampoo seemingly forever because I have to clean his ears out twice a day and bathe him twice a week. (OK — truth be told, I really didn’t intend to get into rescue for this particular one. But it was worth it.)

Rhett cone

This is Rhett, who I fostered for a little more than a month — he left for his new home yesterday!

I got into rescue to have to be home exactly every 12 hours to give a diabetic cat insulin.

I got into rescue to author the book “101 ways to give a cat a pill.” (No, seriously, I should write this book.)

And, I absolutely, 100%, without a doubt got into rescue to help a senior cat who can’t even walk straight learn to climb again.

Photo on 3-5-14 at 12.17 PM


Of course, I got into rescue for this:

Happy Graham


And for days like this…

Graham Sink



And moments like this…

Silly Graham


But, one thing’s for sure… there’s more to rescue than playing with kittens, and even though the hard parts can completely suck sometimes — I’m glad I got into rescue.

Tonight’s been a hard night.

Graham is sick again, and we’re headed back to the vet tomorrow. All this after over a month of dealing with a second foster (named Rhett — pictured above in the cone) who had to be at the vet every 2 weeks, needed medicated baths, had a major ear infection, and is even still being treated for potential ringworm. Never a break! Never a boring day in this house!

But, it’s worth it.

Rhett is worth it. Graham is worth it.

That’s why I got into rescue — because every animal — young or old, sick or well — is worth my time, energy, and a little piece of my heart.

That’s what rescue is all about, isn’t it?



Meet Graham!

The wedding is over, my life is returning to some semblance of normal, and I’ve finally returned to fostering! I recently began a new job that allows me to work from home 100%, so I decided that I was up for a slightly more challenging kitty case this time around (although, if I’m honest, Graham has proven thus far to be the easiest foster I’ve ever had).

Meet Graham!


Graham was a HART kitten 10 years ago. He was adopted by a family who kept him all his life until now, when they decided to return him. If that type of transition isn’t hard enough on a senior cat, Graham also came to us with diabetes, which has caused diabetic neuropathy. This causes Graham to walk a little oddly; his legs shake and hunch a bit, but he mostly takes it in stride.

The diabetic neuropathy should hopefully resolve itself as his diabetes comes under control. We hope to get his diabetes under control through diet change and by giving him insulin injections twice per day.

Graham also came to us with a really gross coat; it was (is) rather greasy, and he has a ton of dandruff. This doesn’t prevent him from looking stunning in his pictures though.


We were told that Graham was a “one-person cat” who liked to hide. While he does like to hang out in his fort (a propped up painting that he’s turned into a kitty tent), he readily greets both Kevin and me whenever we come into the room! He’s a pretty chill cat 🙂 (And he constantly “makes biscuits” with his paws!)


I tried letting Graham out of his foster room, but he mostly prefers to stay in there even if the door is open. However, if you pull out a dangly string, he will chase it like the hunter he really is! Play helps him to become more confident. After a play session, he’ll venture downstairs and explore!


Graham’s absolute favorite thing is getting brushed and wiped down with cleansing wipes (a daily regime currently until his coat is a bit better off; he does not appear to be grooming himself probably due to being sick and stressed). When you brush Graham, he begins to love on EVERYTHING!


Ohai gate…I love you!

That’s Graham! 🙂 Stay tuned for many Graham-y adventures to come!


An Open Letter to Those Who Surrender or Re-Home their Pets and a Note to My Fellow Rescue Volunteers

This letter is not easy for me to write for a number of reasons: first, because there are so many of you with so many stories; second, because I feel a multitude of emotions about each re-homing/surrender situation that I’ve encountered; and third, because I must include myself in the list of audience members for whom this letter is intended.

That’s right; I have re-homed a pet. A dog…a puppy named Brady.

I think it’s important that you know this up front, because I want you to know that everything I say, I am also saying to myself. I have been where some of you are right now; I have felt what some of you might be feeling right now.

I began this blog by telling you how intrigued I am with the stories of those animals who I meet through the rescue for which I volunteer. Just as with those animals’ stories, I recognize that each of the stories of those who must let go of their pets is also different; no two sets of circumstances are exactly the same.

For the most part in the rescue world, the moment you bring up that you have re-homed or surrendered a pet, you will feel immediately judged. Most rescues will not adopt to you if you have ever re-homed or surrendered a pet, and I recognize that this policy is in place for a good reason. I know that many people DO surrender or re-home their pets because they feel that these pets are “just animals” who are replaceable and expendable; I have certainly encountered these people. And, those who do view animals in that way deserve the judgment that they receive upon confessing their past pet history.

But, I am also aware that there are others out there who, like me, have re-homed or surrendered a pet because it was truly the right thing to do. (And, to be clear, by “the right thing to do,” I mean the right thing to do for that animal.) Because, sometimes, I truly believe that it can be the right thing to do.

To those who fall into this latter category with me, I want to extend a hand of empathy and a listening ear without judgment or stigma attached. I want you to know that some of us who volunteer in rescue have been where you are right now, and that we (well, I can truly only speak for myself) understand that this might not be the “easy way out” for you in any way, shape, or form. I also want to let you know that there is a right way and a wrong way to re-home a pet, and I’ll get more into that later.

I’d like to share my story, if I may. Some of you reading this story may relate to it; some of you may judge me (and harshly) for it. That is ok by me; I have spent the last 2 years coming to terms with my decision to re-home Brady, and I have concluded repeatedly that it was absolutely the right thing for me to do.

I “adopted” Brady when he was 2 months old from a “rescue” that a boyfriend and I found online. I put these words in quotation marks because I know now (after working with a legitimate rescue) that this rescue was clearly NOT a legitimate rescue (or at least not a good and moral one). They did no background screening, and their policy was “once you adopt the dog, it’s yours. You cannot ever bring it back. Period.”

My boyfriend at the time and I picked out and brought Brady home after doing next to no research on breed, dog care, or puppy proofing. Stellar; we really started out on the right foot! (end sarcasm.) Brady was a german shepherd, lab, husky mix of some sort; he was adorable, intelligent, and rambunctious (as puppies are apt to be).

My first thoughts upon bringing Brady home were “oh my gosh, he’s so adorable; I’m so excited!” followed immediately by “what the hell have I done?” I cried a lot that first week.

Brady was a near-perfect dog; truly, he was. He was incredibly intelligent and took maybe a month to house break. At the age of 3 months old, I could put him in a sit-stay and leave the room; he’d remain where he was until being released even without my being there. He would down-stay and not move to chase a treat that I’d throw across the room…even when the cat chased it. He would let me put treats on each of his paws and would look at me, never touching the treats unless I released him to do so. And this was as a baby! I knew immediately that this dog had some incredible obedience potential.

I started Brady in puppy classes immediately upon bringing him home. During the time that I had him, we did about 3 or 4 different formal puppy and obedience classes. We practiced a lot at home; he always needed to be doing something. I also got Brady a mid-day dog walker to come by each day and let him out. When he was old enough, we began bringing him to doggie daycare so that he could run and play more frequently.

As Brady got older, his energy level changed. He loved to be moving or doing obedience lessons; he needed near-constant stimulation. Our hour-long walks were not enough; I began bringing him to the dog park, where he absolutely loved playing with the other dogs. Aside from dealing with Brady’s near-constant car sickness, I enjoyed all of these things: obedience lessons, doggie day care, the dog park, walks…

In June of 2011, my boyfriend and I broke up. It had always been the deal between us that if we broke up, he would take Brady. However, he decided to move across the country and told me that he could not take Brady with him. I let him go; I was glad Brady stayed with me anyway because I didn’t really trust my ex to find Brady a good home if he wound up unable to care for him. When my ex left, Brady was very sad. He had been quite bonded to my ex; they slept together every night.

And so I found myself with twice the expenses as I’d previously had and half the manpower to get things done. From June – August of 2011, I did my best to make it work.

I could no longer afford the obedience classes or dog walker; though, I did manage to afford one day a week of doggie daycare. I would come home every evening, take Brady on a long walk, and then take him to the dog park for 2 hours.

Every spare penny that I had went into buying him chews (he loved to chew), paying for his vet care (I got him neutered & microchipped, had him on heartworm preventatives and flea/tick prevention, and, of course, I ensured that all of his vaccinations were on schedule), buying his Wellness dog food (he threw everything else up), and just trying to give him the best life that I could.

Meanwhile, Brady was suffering. He was constantly restless – despite the 3 hours of exercise each day. He was not bonding with me whatsoever; he would sit in the corner and just whine and whimper. His anxiety made me anxious; I felt that I was failing him. My anxiety made him anxious; he was very sensitive.

And then, I reached a point where I found myself having to choose between groceries and feeding my dog.

I have to pause here because I want to share the thoughts I was having during this time, but there is truly no other way for me to share them than through some sort of quasi-stream-of-consciousness thing… so, without further explanation… these were my thoughts and feelings during this time:

I can’t do this. I have to do this. I would never re-home an animal. Ever. I always say to everyone how once you adopt a pet, you are responsible for it for the rest of its life. He’s my responsibility; he’s mine. I can’t abandon him. I’m failing him. If I re-home him, I will fail him. But, I can’t do this anymore; I can’t afford groceries. I’m miserable; he’s miserable. I don’t ever spend time with anyone or anything other than him and it’s still not enough. I can’t give him what he needs; abandoning him and re-homing him can’t be an option. If I re-home him, I will have failed him; I will be a terrible pet owner – I will never ever be able to own a pet again.

In short, I felt that re-homing him would make me the scum of the earth.

I didn’t know what to do.

I decided to “test the waters” so to speak by posting an ad on Craigslist …and here is where everyone can get all up in arms and judge me because, yes, I am going to confess it right now…

I re-homed Brady using Craigslist.

I am pretty sure that makes me destined for the 6th or 7th level of Hell in some peoples’ books.

So, I posted an ad on Craigslist. Here is what my ad said:


I received a number of responses to that initial ad. Some of them were clearly from people who were not good enough for Brady; I ignored those. I also got a couple of good responses from people who seemed like truly good people looking for a dog. I responded to a few, weeded a few people out, and found one person who I actually really liked. We’ll call her “A” (as in angel; because she’s been an angel to me – but anyway…).

After finding A, I immediately freaked out, melted down, and told her that I couldn’t re-home my dog. I wanted to try to make this work; I couldn’t be that failure… I was terrified that A was going to respond and yell at me for wasting her time.

She did not; she told me that she understood, and she listened to my ramblings. She said that I could contact her in the future if I changed my mind but that she hoped things would work out for me.

For a few weeks, I put this whole fiasco behind me… I was not going to re-home Brady; I was going to make things work. I was determined. Even if we were both miserable, I was going to make this work. The thought of re-homing Brady made me physically ill. It felt like an ultimate act of betrayal.

And then, one morning about 3 weeks later, I woke up to find that Brady had, for the first time in his entire life, become destructive; he had eaten 3 window sills beyond repair.

I want to make this clear: I was not mad at Brady for his destruction. I was angry at myself. Brady had never ever before been destructive, and I knew that his destruction was because the 3 hours of exercise a day was not enough for him… he needed more, and I had nothing else that I could give. I had nothing.

I reached back out to A – I was CERTAIN that she would have adopted another dog somewhere already. I was wrong; she had not. She had been patiently waiting to find the right dog for her.

“A” came to my house to meet Brady, and I liked her immediately. I began showing her what Brady knew obedience-wise, and she was clearly surprised at his level of skill. She asked me if I was sure that I wanted to re-home him and said that he was so much more well-trained than she’d anticipated. I broke down… and told her, in tears, my story about how I’d wound up in this situation. She hugged me, let me cry on her, listened to my story… she did not judge me, and she was so patient with my indecision. She loved Brady, and he liked her a lot.

The next day, I brought Brady to her home, where I met her children and was able to do a home check and observe how Brady and her kids interacted. They were (and are) a wonderful family. The kicker is… I knew that Brady was their dog nearly immediately. Brady, who was never really excited to see me…who sat and whined in the corner of my home out of boredom and anxiety… was instantly and completely in love with her two children.

I stayed for about an hour…showing them his obedience skills, teaching the kids how to give him commands, etc. I also made an agreement with them that if for any reason and at any time, they could not keep Brady, he was to be returned to me — No Questions Asked. I don’t care if he’s 20 years old, has cancer, has become aggressive… whatever happens. No Questions Asked, he must come back to me.

And then, I left.

And I cried…a lot.

But, I cried only for me. Because Brady was one happy dog.

I have been blessed in that “A” and I stay in touch. That first 6 months, we talked a lot. She invited me to Brady’s “first birthday party,” complete with watching Finding Nemo and celebrating with cake, haha. I couldn’t bear to go, but I did send a gift.

It’s been 2 years now, and we’re still in touch. I saw a picture of Brady the other day and barely recognized him; he’s an adult dog now…no longer the baby puppy I had for 5 months.

And that is my story. It took me 1 full year to stop hating myself for what I’d done (and to stop crying nearly once a week because of that self-hatred); it took me another year to fully recognize that I’d done the right thing by Brady.

And that is when I became involved in my current rescue. And this is why I wanted to share my story and write this “letter.”

Despite the pain that came with my Brady experience, I am extremely grateful for it…because it allows me to look at you, person who is surrendering your pet to our rescue, and not judge you before hearing your full story.

Some of you are doing the right thing, but I don’t think that I would be able to really understand that without experiencing what I have experienced. More often than not, rescue volunteers seem to see only the animal…and not the person with that animal. I want you to know that I see you, and I am here to listen.

I know that when I was contemplating re-homing Brady, I was made to feel like the scum of the earth by some people. And, I imagine that that has happened to you as well. But, I am here to tell you that despite what you might have heard, sometimes re-homing is absolutely the right thing to do.

And you, person seeking help from our rescue, are doing it the right way by reaching out to a no-kill rescue for help.

And you, other person who is fostering your own pet in your own home while we help you find him a new home, you are doing this the right way.

I didn’t know that I had those options, which is why I used Craigslist – a far more dangerous option that I DO NOT RECOMMEND TO ANYONE. (I wanted to make that clear.)

And, lastly, my note to fellow rescue volunteers…

As I work side-by-side with you and see the abuse that some of our animals encounter, I understand why it is that you might immediately judge someone asking us to take their animal. I understand your anger; I feel it as well – each time another animal is abandoned in front of Petsmart or at one of our rescue volunteer’s doors. I feel that anger, judgment, and injustice for those animals. I get angry with you; I think and sometimes say insulting things about these people.

But, fellow volunteer, I also wanted you to know my story so that you could be reminded that sometimes…people end up in situations where re-homing is the right thing for the animal. And, I wanted to remind you that some people who re-home or surrender their animals DO NOT view those animals as objects to easily discard.

I was one of those people, and I promise you that I have not ever viewed any animal as replaceable. My pets and even my fosters are everything to me…and that is exactly WHY I re-homed my dog. Because he deserved more than I could give, and because it was what was best for him. It was terribly hard on me; it was far more easy for him.

Behind every surrendered or re-homed pet is a person. And while the animal is absolutely our first priority in rescue, sometimes I think we are too quick to forget (or judge) the person. Yes, people can be terrible to animals… beyond belief terrible.

People can also be good to their animals… and sometimes doing right by an animal involves giving that animal up. Not everyone who surrenders or re-homes a pet is one of the abusers.

You Have an Opportunity to be Amazing

Whenever someone finds out that I foster for a local rescue, the reaction is almost always the same: “Oh, that’s amazing what you do! I could never do that! I’d want to keep every one of them.”

Now, I’m new to this, and so I know that I don’t have a ton of advice or wisdom to give, but this reaction has always confused me a bit.

First of all, I have never considered my fostering to be amazing. I didn’t start fostering because it was an amazing thing to do; I started fostering because I literally came face-to-face with a cat that, if I didn’t foster him, may die.

Secondly, so many others absolutely could do this! They could! Did you know that some rescues furnish everything you need (including litter, food, etc.)? Did you know that the rescues pay for your foster animals’ vet care? That anything you do buy for them is tax-deductible?


What does fostering really take?

Time… patience… and a love for animals. A spare bedroom helps too, but it’s not a requirement.

I’ve wanted to write this blog for a long time; it’s what I think whenever someone says to me “Oh, that’s amazing!” … I want to tell them “Don’t you see… YOU have an opportunity to do something amazing too!”


But, maybe you think that you’d never be able to let them go… maybe you don’t want to deal with the emotional turmoil of having to say goodbye to an animal. It is hard; sometimes you do want to keep them.


I have said two goodbyes since my last blog. Milton left me first, and it was hard. However, the harder part for me was separating Milton and Diego; I worried so much about Diego being lonely and sad to see his buddy go.


Yeah, Diego didn’t care.

Diego became best friends with my 2 cats, and he cuddled up on me extra often. That was it.



But, I confess it: I wanted to keep Diego.


I fell in love with Diego… even more so than with Chance. Guys… it was hard saying goodbye to Diego.


I had Diego from June 1 – September 16. From 6 weeks old til he was 5 months old. And, then I said goodbye. So, you see, I understand that feeling and worry of wanting to keep your fosters. I’ve been there.


But, here’s the thing…

I didn’t have to say goodbye because Diego was off to a shelter to suffer.

I said goodbye because Diego was off to live an incredible life with a family who literally wrote me an essay about why they specifically wanted Diego above any other cat. I said goodbye to Diego as he left for a new and amazing life…

And the only reason Diego, Milton, Chance, and the hundreds of other cats adopted through rescues have lives at all is because people have chosen to do something amazing and foster for their local rescues.


You see, I would much rather cry a few emotional tears as Diego leaves for an incredible new life than cry in sadness when I find out that a kitty like Diego didn’t get a chance at life because there was nobody there to be his foster family.


If you think that those who foster are amazing, well here is your chance to be amazing too.

You don’t need to quit your job, sell all you own, and donate it to charity. You don’t need to sacrifice your life. All you need to do is reach out to your local rescue and ask how you can help.

If you’re worried about the money and time commitments, don’t dismiss this opportunity quite yet; talk with your local rescue and see how their foster program works. See if they can work with you to find the right placement for you. See if they need temporary fosters, transportation help, people to do adoption interviews, people to volunteer to set up and tear down events…


You can help.

You have an opportunity to be amazing. What will you do with that opportunity?

When One is Overlooked

I was going to do another light-hearted video post showing how adorable Milton & Diego are playing together, but instead I am feeling led to talk more about something that’s been more and more on my mind lately as Milton & Diego have met people along the way to finding their forever homes.

When a potential adopter visits my house or comes up to Milton & Diego’s cage at an adoption event, Milton’s is the first face everyone sees.


Milton has everything going for him. He’s a big boy with a wonderful personality! He will approach strangers for petting and playtime; he’s quick to trust and makes everyone coo at his adorable little face.

But with a brother with so much personality and adorableness to compete with, little Diego is often completely overlooked…


Diego is more shy and reserved around strangers. That’s not to say that he’s terrified of people; he’s not! He’s just a typical cat…

He will not approach people to greet them as soon as they enter, but he also doesn’t run and hide.

He does not solicit attention from people he doesn’t know, but he will play with them if they pick up a toy.

He is smaller, darker, faster, and harder to spot. He doesn’t call attention to himself, and so he is overlooked while people coo and coddle the more dominant personality of Milton.

And Diego doesn’t mind this; he doesn’t know that he’s being overshadowed.


But I mind…

Because I know Diego, and I know who he really is.

DiegoLapI know that Diego will weave around my legs, purring uncontrollably.

I know that if I bend over to pet Milton, Diego will walk straight off the cat tree and onto my back.

I know that he will climb the greatest heights to get to my face so that he can rub it with his.


So, I mind when people don’t look twice at him. I am sad when he is overlooked.

I love and adore Milton; know that I do!


Milton makes me laugh! And I love to pick him up and cuddle and kiss him!

But, Diego is special to me…especially because he’s not special to anyone else.

So, how do you handle it when one of your fosters is overlooked?

Do you tell everyone how amazing he is? Hope that your stories will be convincing enough? Try to capture the moments on video or in photos to “prove” to people that this cat is awesome?!

Or do you just wait… and know that when the right person sees him, they’ll see what you’ve known all along… that this cat is special and worthy of being FIRST pick?

That’s where I’m at right now. I’m doing a little of both, but mostly, I think I need to just wait. Because I don’t want Diego to go to a home that adopts him because I convinced them that he was worth the risk…

I want Diego to go to a home where Diego is wanted for who he is… and as he is: a special cat with a special purpose. I want him to go to a home where he will never ever be overlooked again.